Webster Dictionary: a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety
Wikipedia: shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness
American Psychological Association: a highly unpleasant self-conscious emotion arising from the sense of there being something dishonorable, immodest, or indecorous in one's own conduct or circumstances.
The common definition of shame is a painful emotion. Shame can destroy if you connect shame to anything that happens in your life.
You may have accepted being the cause for the shame when you are not. Why? Read further and you will understand why there is no shame.
Webster Dictionary: the state of one who has committed an offense especially consciously
Wikipedia: an emotion that occurs when a person feels that they have violated a moral standard
American Psychological Association:a self-conscious emotion characterized by a painful appraisal of having done (or thought) something that is wrong and often by a readiness to take action
Shame and guilt are not the same.
Shame is when you are the wrong. Your existence is wrong. And you know that you have the right to exist!
Guilt is when you do something wrong. You may have even been aware of the wrong before following through on your action.